I have seen plenty of discourse and writing on the subject of intent vs impact when actions lead to harm, particularly in existing interpersonal relationships. The thrust tends to be that it's unreasonable to focus the discussion or conclusions on the intent of the actor rather than the impact the actions had on the other party. Given just those two factors, I tend to agree; the intent of the actor will usually not be nearly as important or worthy of focus. I have also observed that when someone