When something painful happens to you (like illness, injury, grief, or setbacks), it's as if life has fired an arrow at you. While the pain of negative experiences is unavoidable, you may, however, endure extra/unnecessary suffering depending on how you react to that initial pain. If you react with anguish or despair or frustration, according to the Buddha, it's as if you have fired a second arrow at yourself.[1]People presume that venting diminishes our suffering, but Dr. Ethan Kross in his boo